I think I'm ok with turning 37, even if it means I'm now in my "late 30s"... which makes me cringe a little.
But, I am healthier than I was at 27.
I am happier than I've ever been.
I have more love in my life than I ever imagined.
I finally work in just the right place for my personality, my skills, and my needs.
My life is decidedly not perfect—and I am recognizing it much faster when I fall back on that perfectionism mentality, too.
My life is quieter, slower, and calmer, and yet—filled with deeper connections, greater intimacy, and vulnerable authenticity.
Truly, I am blessed.
If you recall, my “theme” for 2012 is abundance. What I didn’t realize at first is that to welcome abundance in all its forms: love, money, blessings, health, stability, strength, openness, authenticity, etc… you have to clear out the old.
That means letting go and walking away. It means paring down. It means readjusting priorities. It means knowing and feeling what’s really important and meaningful in your life.
And sometimes that’s not only a difficult process, but painful one, too.
But, like anything else worth doing, it feels good to finally let go. When I let go of my Acura back in February, I had no idea the events that were already cascading into place in the background. It’s as if the Acura was the dam, and once I agreed that the dam was no longer working as intended… it broke loose and I was washed over with a flood of—yes… abundance, in the form of a new job, a newer car, and a renewed lease on my condo.
I also had to truly let go of David. That is something I haven’t found a way to talk about cleverly here (or anywhere), but it was incredibly difficult. I let him go because he wasn’t really all in at that point. He was acting as if I truly wasn’t that important in his life.
Once I finally (and wholly) let go—he came back. And as I mentioned before, he came back in a very big way. And I have felt altogether overwhelmed, amazed, and deeply humbled at the abundance of love flowing between us and surrounding us.
It proves to me that letting go of what I perceive to be the best I can have makes room for something better than I ever imagined. That is what abundance looks like in this first half of 2012.
Letting go is painful, though. It’s a tough decision and I don’t arrive there easily, quickly, or even all that willingly.
But once I surrender… I’m inspired and awe-struck.
The beauty of letting go is all the unexpected blessings that suddenly arrive. And I am letting them in, too, which is something else new for me.
It feels good.
I think the best thing about getting older is that I feel like I have come into my true self. I am finally allowing myself to “just be me”, which is something I longed for—for so many years. And after a whole lot of hard work, and more than one slice of humble pie, it’s come true.
I am me. And 37 is already looking like a great year.
Thank you for being here on this ride with me. I can no longer imagine trying to do this alone.
Thankfully, I don’t have to.